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who always put the needs of others before her own.

She will be deeply missed by her family and friends,

but her memory will live on through the countless

lives she touched during her time on this earth.

A private funeral service will be held for family

and close friends on (date and location of

service). In lieu of flowers, the family requests that

donations be made in Susie's name to (charitable

organization of choice).

That’s not terrible. It’s a basic template – you

probably use something similar when families

aren’t sure where to start.

What if you ask ChatGPT to write an obituary

but include a few details about the person?

I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your Aunt

Susie. [Again, nice touch.] Here is an obituary that

reflects her life and loves:

Susie, age [insert age], passed away on [insert date]

in [insert location]. She was born on [insert date] to

[insert parents' names] in [insert birthplace]. Susie

was a beloved daughter, sister, aunt, friend, and

successful professional. She will be deeply missed

by all who knew her.

Susie had a passion for music, particularly The

Doors, which she loved listening to and seeing

live in concert. She also enjoyed ballet and loved

watching performances whenever she could. Susie

was a proud Green Bay Packers fan and followed

their games religiously.

Although she didn't enjoy cooking, Susie loved to

dine out with her loved ones, sharing stories and

laughs over delicious meals. She cherished her

Polish heritage and instilled its traditions and

values in her family. She had three sisters, Barb, Pat

and Pam, whom she adored dearly, and her love for

family extended to all her nieces and nephews.

Susie had a successful career in the insurance

industry, working with her best friend from high

school until her retirement. She was a hard worker

and always brought a positive attitude to her job.

She was an inspiration to many, both personally

and professionally.

In her free time, Susie loved to travel and explore

new places. She had a sense of adventure and

was always ready to discover new cultures and

experiences.

Susie will be remembered for her love of music,

family, and adventure. Her legacy will live on

through her family and friends. May she rest in

peace.

Even better – it’s clear by providing more details,

the bot came up with a more personalized

obituary – but still not perfect. But, as I previously

noted, it can’t replicate expert guidance you can

offer to families on providing the nuance and

emotion needed to craft a memorable obituary.

You know the kinds of questions to ask families

and how to tease out stories that will help

you and the family write an obituary and plan

a meaningful funeral.

But, for those of you dread writing obits and find

yourself getting stuck, ChatGPT may be a viable

option to help you develop a first draft that you

can present to the family. From there, you can

work with them to further customize the obituary

and give it the “heart” it needs.

There are even more possibilities – I asked

ChatGPT “Help me plan a Facebook campaign

to promote a funeral preplanning seminar my

funeral home is hosting?” and “I own a funeral

home. How can I educate my community about

green funeral options?”

The responses and suggested tactics were solid,

but somewhat broad. They lacked specific details

on how to bring ideas to fruition or what exactly

might work best given the composition of your

community. That is one key limitation to ChatGPT

and AI in general – it has difficulty understanding

context, background information, and highly

specific information about various professions

and industries.

That’s something only you can bring to the table;

but if you’re stuck and need to jump start your

creativity – and can’t invest in hiring a marketing

expert – ChatGPT may be a good alternative.

Why not test it out for yourself? It’s free and may

be a tool you can add to your arsenal to help you

expand your horizons.

But remember, ChatGPT is a computer. It’s

never going to replace the genuine sympathy

you show when sitting across from a family in

an arrangement conference. It’s not going to

offer a tissue to the widower who’s tearing up

and he shares the story of he she met his wife.

It’s not going to surprise a widow by making sure

the church organist plays the special hymn she

mentioned during the recessional at the church

service.

That is what you do – a role that only a HUMAN

funeral

director

can

fill

and

something

a computer could never do. 

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